Healing in relationship is essentially healing our part in our relationship with God. The brokenness in relationship, due to the separation, carries us toward the goal ever more so as we relinquish all of our thoughts about relationship to Holy Spirit for Love's healing. All intimate relationships are attempts to merge with God, to come to know Self, to return Home. Creation becomes available in our Self-intimacy with God. True creation is born out of extending Love.

Physical intimacy is a replacement for God, an attempt of the ego to reproduce creation. However, real intimacy in relationship with the God Self in each other, can be experienced through the bodily experience of sexual intimacy if sex is not the goal. The goal is Love. Difficult path is this, for most thoughts of sex are obstacles to Love because they never leave the ego thought system and enter Love, due to unwillingness. We cannot attempt to channel Love through sex by wishful thinking or good intentions. Sex channeled through Love, however, is a step towards true intimacy. The exceptional difference here is to meet ego all dressed up in "love" or to follow Love naked into unknown territory. This is the tangled web of intimate relationships. There is strong ego-based evidence of intimacy through closeness - physical, emotional, and mental - but never enough to fill the emptiness inside the self. Mutual love coincides with the terror of separation in ego-based intimacy.

All Love remembers our innocence. Here lays dormant true intimacy. "Sexual innocence" is guilt-ridden in the hands of ego-based intimacy. Freedom from guilt relieves the ego illusion of sexual innocence as one realizes they are not making love, but extending Love, therefore releasing fear and guilt often unconsciously associated with sex. The separation theme of the ego thought system drives guilt which drives all behavior including making love.

Innocence creates love in the moment and inspires every moment thereafter. Freedom from separation guilt is experienced. We love when we join. We join when we practice forgiveness letting Holy Spirit accomplish the forgiving. We create oneness when we are in It. And this, my friends, is true Love. In Joy.

Copyright © 2007 Mary Gerard Lenihan